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Conversing? Pay attention!

Written on May 2, 2010 – 3:24 pm | by Steve Yastrow |

Some people are really bad at conversation.  Some are masters.  Why?

I believe it is mostly a matter of self-awareness.

We all know people who are pathological monologuers .  They talk. And then they continue talking. And then they talk some more. Oh … and then, just to make sure you understand what they said, they tell you the same thing all over again.

Why do people do this?  Have they made a conscious choice, selecting a life of monologue over a life of dialogue?   No, I don’t think so. I think they are just not self-aware.  If they were to see a movie of themselves monologuing, most would be petrified.

Sure, there are some who just love to hear themselves talk.  (They are really bad at persuading others to do anything.)  But, for the rest of us, it’s really just a matter of paying attention.  (Keep reading the Conversationemter in your mind, at all times.)

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Comment by Anshul Gupta
2010-05-03 13:05:23

Well…I have come across many such people…

Well written..

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